Mom Stuff

My mother is reaching the stage of life where she is less able to live independantly. So, I and my three older brothers, are talking to her and helping her figure out what happens next. Which is, mostly, immediately proximate to Mom (and slightly older than me) brother J is spending a fair bit of time getting mom to assorted medical appointments and addressing necessary tasks. One such thing is the process of getting Mom to move to an assisted living facility (she lives alone in her house, as Dad passed away about four years ago). My role in this is that I am mostly trying to organize the information we all collect. That is, I have a spreadsheet on Gdocs. Brother just posted a website for a particular place he is taking mom to see, soon. Not necessarily asking her to move there, so much as showing her that if she moved, things would be okay. It is in the same town as she currently lives. I looked at the website, and then asked brother if there was any additional information he wanted included on the spreadsheet. His respose? "See previous link". ... You mean the website? What part of "Additional Information" do you not get? I asked a very precised, succinct, focussed and deliberate question. If you listened to what I said and actually thought about it for two seconds in a row and took me seriously enough to respect what I bring to the table, all you had to say about this was "No." Maybe even "Not at this time, maybe after mom and I visit it." All things I am not going to bother saying. I am the youngest. I am not, ever, taken seriously. Nothing I do or have done will ever change that. And I have to accept that, from this part of my family. Even as I embrace that it is not as true in other parts of my (chosen) family. Here endeth the rant.